It is the last day of Rosacea Awareness Month today and I wanted to write a post that I’ve been pondering about for a while. I spend a lot of time thinking about my rosacea and trying to come to terms with the way it makes me feel, act, and how I see myself. But – as with any condition that changes the way you live your life – I have spent a lot of time wondering how my rosacea effects other people, namely my husband.
I was a very confident and outgoing child. I would talk to anyone, was always singing and dancing and putting on shows in front of anyone who would listen. I went through some awkward teenage years (I felt too skinny, I had no boobs to speak of, I didn’t like the way I looked compared to my friends…) but it was when I went to university and my rosacea emerged that the real damage was done to my confidence. I struggled to put myself out there and make new friends, I convinced myself that others were judging me, and treated myself horribly. After many years I’m finally trying to move away from those bad habits and so I wanted to share my tips on how to stop negative thoughts.
I’ve not spent very much time around children since I was one myself. A few of my friends have had children of their own, but the only child I’ve spent a lot of time with is my niece who is five. She’s intelligent, hilarious, fascinating, stubborn, and absolutely beautiful. At the weekend I was braiding her hair and noticed how shiny and healthy it was (no bleach or hair straightener damage in sight!), how smooth her skin was, I took in her slightly-oversized ears, her gangly limbs (she’s going to end up being at least 5 inches taller than me), her gummy smile, her ridiculously long eyelashes and I was just marvelling at her. She’s so new and unaware of it all. We tell children every day that they’re beautiful and incredible and wonderful, that they’re strong and clever, brave, funny and special. But what happens between then and now?
I’ve been doing a few posts recently about the hidden side of rosacea (and any skin condition): the emotional aspects. Today I wanted to talk about confidence and unhelpful thoughts. This is a topic that I think most people can find useful, even if you don’t suffer with a skin condition. Confidence, self-esteem, and low self-worth are issues that most people suffer with at some point in their lives. I hope you find this helpful, let me know your thoughts in the comments and leave me your techniques for helping interrupt or stop unhelpful thoughts – I would love to hear them.
Last week I wrote a post about the emotional impact of skin conditions and how they can take over your life. So I wanted to do another post on the effect of stress on your skin – both physically and psychologically – and some tips and tricks that you can utilise to gain control over your stress. I hope you find this interesting and/or helpful!